Welcome to a wide ranging conversation about human relationships.

Call it relational intelligence, emotional literacy or social emotional learning; whatever we choose to call it, how well our sons and daughters interpret, engage and ultimately enjoy emotional connection in the world will be central to both their personal and professional successes in life. For our purposes at Remaking Manhood, we have chosen to use relational intelligence. This is because, for us, emotions are always born in relationship to others, in the relational spaces between people.

The influences that impact how well or poorly we create relationships are located at the intersection of personal history, culture, gender narratives, social conditioning, race, class and much more. But one thing is certain. Human beings need and desire meaningful authentic relationships. This is central to our individual and collective well being. We need relationships for our own well being, and we cannot collectively survive without the kinds of strong diverse relationships which make up healthy communities. Relationships are the life blood of any sustainable society.

Any of us can choose to begin this work at any time. We can choose to grow relational capacities within ourselves and we can encourage their growth within our children. We simple have to begin those conversations.

Which brings us to our mission:

We must commit to granting our children their birthright. Their birthright is their inherent capacity to form authentic, emotionally vibrant relationships. All we need do is stop training them out of these capacities, either by action or inaction. Through helping them grow their relational intelligence, we can insure they become what they are born to be, emotionally connected, joyful and thriving human beings.

Below are videos outlining some of the challenges and opportunities our sons and daughters will encounter as emotionally vibrant human beings embedded in a world of relationships. Look for our posts on specific age appropriate ways to grow relational intelligence. We will continue to add additional videos, resources, reading lists and more. Thanks for coming and please join our conversations on Facebook. We’d love to hear your thoughts.

Warm regards,
Mark Greene
Saliha Bava, PhD

The Male Emotional Suppression Cycle in 50 Seconds.

Just the brutal facts. That’s how we describe this depiction of the process by which boys and men are shamed and bullied into suppressing their emotions and hiding their authentic selves. The result is epidemic levels of isolation for men resulting in mortality risks equivalent to individuals who smoke two packs of cigarettes a day.  America’s epidemic of isolation is rooted in the shaming of our sons.

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Our American Epidemic of Loneliness

This 60-second video is designed to spark a conversation about how relationship building capacities hold the key to creating rich rewarding personal and professional lives for us and for our children. Call it relational intelligence, social emotional learning, or emotional capacities, by any name, growing these capacities is crucial to ending America’s epidemic of isolation.

When Are Our Sons First Taught to Man Up?

This four minute video features author and researcher Judy Chu and Good Men Project Senior Editor Mark Greene discussing the culture of male emotional toughness and the suppression of children’s emotional expression which will have a serious and lasting the impact over the course of our children’s lifetimes.

How Does Playful Parenting Help Grow Our Children’s Relational Intelligence?

In this new four minute video, Mark Greene and Saliha Bava, co-authors of the upcoming “The Forever Book”, share ideas about how intentionally playful parenting can grow our children’s relational intelligence.

Why Social Emotional Learning Belongs in Every School

This 90 second video featuring Sarah Zeller-Berkman of CUNY’s School of Professional Studies, outlines the transformative power of Social Emotional Learning programs in our public schools.

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The Lack of Gentle Platonic Touch in Men’s Lives is a Killer

Since its original publication, this article has been shared over 100,000 times on Facebook. Mark Greene explores how in American culture, men avoid all contact rather than risk even the hint of causing unwanted sexual touch.